Development of a pubic policy is not the result of well-intentioned people dialoging about an issue and crafting a reasonable position that satisfies both of them.

It is a fight in which adversaries strive to win as much as possible. Compromise is a back-up plan, only accepted when total victory is not achievable.

So, don't be squeamish about confronting opponents and engaging in battle. Develop a strategy to outmaneuver, outwit, and outlast them.

The goal is to win. If you back off because you don't like conflict, then you will lose.